Do I try too hard???????

I am 24 and I've never dated or had a boyfriend. I think there is something wrong with any guy who likes me. I was fat all my life, I weighed 230 lbs at 16, I had braces, I had greasy hair, I wore sweats, I didn't bother wearing any makeup, no guy ever liked me, I was teased relentlessly. So to be liked I ended up being funny and nice to everyone. Over the past year I lost 75 lbs, I wear makeup, I dress well, I have nice teeth and hair and I do notice I get more attention. But the closer I get to my ideal self the more critical I get. I am nice to everyone and I want everyone to like me. People I don't even know tell my friends I try too hard, then my friends tell me. One of my guyfriends told me I have ugly duckling syndrome. I am obsessed with myself. I spend hours a day looking at the bodies of models, movie stars, etc. to compare my body. I also binge eat, I sometimes eat 4000 calories in a day, then I feel terrible about it. I try not eating the next day but it doesn't work. I don't want to throw up after I binge eat because I know I won't be able to stop. I don't know what to do anymore.